Celebrating wins in every form is essential to triggering the mind into a state of continuous gratitude. Notifying your brain of the things you are grateful for throughout the day creates a fertile mind for more.
My session was coming up with my coach and I really had no idea what to ‘work on.’
I thought to myself, things are pretty good, I’m in a good place, I am determined, I work hard, smart, and consistently.
Hmm,’ I thought, ‘how is this session gonna turn out?’
Hellos and briefings were passed on and the question came, ‘what do you want to work on?’
‘You know what,’ I said, ‘things are really good. I’m not really sure what I want to talk about but my feeling is I want to celebrate.’
there is a way to celebrate
Before Sally could answer, my mind immediately went to fight or flight. Would this be acceptable? This is selfish and egotistical. Who am I to say I want to celebrate. Am I really good enough? Who am I to brag? Is this bragging?
It is amazing how before the twinkling of an eye our minds, actually our egos, start to fight off our own good.
‘Fantastic, that is wonderful Jeff. Lets do it!’ She exclaimed.
Wow, the door opened, and a floodgate of beautiful sensations coursed through my body. I was elated and I hadn’t even said another word.
This time my body told me everything was good. ‘Great in fact,’ my body exclaimed. And that there is the difference. And another blog post. Head vs. Heart.
I began to brag, blessings poured out of me, laughter ensued, objectives defined, and enthusiasm ignited the tone in my voice. I was beyond my mind at that point. After each comment Sally enthusiastically remarked ‘Yes! Thats wonderful! How amazing!’
She stood there in full support and knew what she was doing. I hadn’t realized it, yet.
She was creating space for me and holding space for me. She was self confidently allowing another person to be proud of themselves without projecting any insecurities ( if she even had any) on me. This allowed me to be fully present and continue our hour long session in an affirmative state.
This brings me to the topic. We all need a friend to hold this celebration space for us.
How many times have you begun to celebrate or talk about some really cool things you’ve been doing and you can just sense the other persons insecurity or envy as you speak?
Then you begin to slow down and the conversation loses steam and all of a sudden you’re back to self protection. Your friend couldn’t hold their space and be proud for you. Instead they let their feelings run wild and energetically limit you.
Now, there is a way to celebrate. By being sensitive to the person your talking to.
Of course if your friend is dealing with job loss, heartbreak, death, let down, now is not the time to celebrate with this person. I hope you understand that. If you’re on this site I imagine you do.
it takes a lot of courage to stand up for ourselves to be proud of who we are
For some of us it takes a lot of courage to stand up for ourselves to be proud of who we are. Were always taught – be humble, be nice, don’t brag. But this isn’t really bragging this is celebrating!
Celebrate your wins. Coming from an honest, self assured, yet humble space is possible. Be proud of what you are doing. Find and mental note that friend who can hold this space for you. Talk to them. Tell them you want to celebrate your wins with them. Ask, ‘hey, I’m doing some really cool things. May I share them with you? ‘
Be proud for all that you are doing. We need encouragement in our lives.
This was such a huge experience for me. I realized I don’t have many friends that I celebrate with. I’m not talking about drinking or partying to celebrate these big wins. I’m talking about a conversation that affirms all the great things going on in your life, or even one day. When you find friends like this, do the same for them. Hold your space. Hold space for them.
If you don’t have that person or are not comfortable hit me up and we will celebrate !
Would love to know if you have a friend or friends to celebrate with.
Please share your thoughts and experiences with me in the comments below.
I would love to hear from you.
Much Love