By overcoming comparison you allow ease into your life and a space of personal confidence knowing you are exactly who you are.
Everyday we are bombarded with messages from the media that comparison is normal an ok,. Comparing suits and dresses on celebrities, one product to another, one city to another.
We are taught to weigh the positive and negatives between various objects, opportunities, and objectives. Comparison is a part of everyday life. It is important to be vigilant when comparing yourself to another in image, finances or career.
Overcoming comparison is a process of consistency and re-affirming ones own truth.
Again what is right for you may not be right for another person. And vice-versa.
Growing up as a twin comparisons abound. While boy girl twins have little to compare in a physical nature, there are still many fields that spring up over the years to compare. Add that to a culture in our middle and high schools of comparing oneself to another on grades, family, clothing, friends, vacations and it seems every are of our lives becomes a comparison.
To overcome comparison one needs to put a few practices in place
– a writing practice
– a practice in quietness
– a routine to gauge results
A writing practice helps you reinforce positive things about yourself. Write down all your positive traits, goals and ideas a few times throughout the day.
This will help you build an idea of yourself and gives you self-esteem to pursue your goals.
Practice quietness or meditation is great for allowing yourself to be who you are without any outside influence or without adding anything external to who you are. It allows you to give space to your true self, that which you are without any add ons. Sitting quietly may be uncomfortable as you begin, thoughts will run rampant, but just let them pass. As your thoughts fade aways a quietness will settle within your body and mind. This is a place where allowing yourself and observing who you really are comes into place. By observing the greatness and simplicity of who you are builds strength and confidence in who you are
A consistent routine definitely improves self-esteem and confidence.
Doing something over and over again starts to show the results. Getting results means you are getting good at that which you are doing. As you get good, your esteem and confidence builds, you start to understand who you are and that which you bring to the table. By understanding what you can ‘bring to the table’ or offer people is a major step in knowing who you are.
Sit and reflect on who you are to yourself and friends.
What value do you bring to your work and group of friends?